Recently, I bragged about a great date I had been on, and told him, that even if we didn’t “click” and end up “dating” he still got an “A” for the “best executed date I had been on in YEARS.” So… What made this date so great?
He insisted on picking me up. When he arrived, he parked, and walked up to get me. After asking me a few preference questions, he chose the restaurant. He held the door, told me I look nice, and asked me questions about myself. He joked with me. He paid for dinner. We then went out to meet some of his friends (which I had previously agreed to.) He introduced me to them, and chatted with everyone- while still interacting with me. He dropped me off, suggested we do it again, and, he texted the next day.
I thought I may have been so blown away because I have been relatively removed and mostly un-enthused about the dating world for a while. But when I told my girlfriend, she responded: “I like him already. Finally, a guy who gets it! Mama taught him well.”
Neither of us are really what I would call “old fashioned girls” either. So why were we both so impressed by this? Is this “old-fashioned”? We’re in a world that thanks to social media and dating sites we assume we’ve made dating or… mating so convenient, yet ask anyone who has spent much time in that forum and they will tell you it’s anything but. Where people tend to peruse MATCH and POF like catalogue shopping, swiping left and right based on nothing more than a photo; we’ve become arrogant, judgmental, possibly even entitled.
For me, this guy earned a great deal of respect; by demonstrating that for me and my time. He showed up fully and made me feel like regardless of outcome; I was worth some effort.
Ladies: How does a guy impress you? What makes a good date? What do you do to be a good date?
Gentlemen: Do you put forth this kind of effort? Why or why not?
Do you treat someone differently if you have previously met them or have mutual friends than you do if you met someone on a dating site? Comment…